Setting Someone Up To Win


Let’s be honest here – we all need to win.  Win at having a successful career.  Win at being the best mom.  Win at being the best dad.  Win at being a good friend.  Win at adulting well.  The list goes on.  And the more we win, the better we get at winning.  However, it seems that generally we rather apply the ‘there-can-only-be-one-winner-in-this-race’ kind of thinking, which only makes most of us losers.  And losing sucks!


At some point in your life, you have uttered or thought one or more of the following phrases…

Life is hard.

Life is busy.

There are not enough hours in the day.

I wish the weekend had an extra day.

I really could do with a holiday right now.

I wish I could spend more time with my kids.


But have you ever tried thinking about it in a different way:

What can I do to make someone else’s life easier?

How can I help someone to make their life less busy?

How can I help give someone that extra hour they need in their day?

Can I do something for someone to make them feel like they had a full weekend?

I have time-share but we already took a holiday, can I give it to someone who really needs a break?

Can I run someone else’s errands so they can spend some extra time with their kids?


When you start thinking like that, you are taking the first steps to setting someone up to win, and then the phrase “when you win, I win” never seems more fitting.


I attended a woman’s conference a few weeks ago and this was where I heard the concept of setting others up to win.  It was something that really spoke to me, and my gift of helping others, so I wanted to do this right away.  And its interesting how, when you open yourself up to things, opportunities just start coming your way.


A young professional contacted me on LinkedIn and asked if I would meet up with her for coffee, as she is about to start her own business and would love to hear me story.  What a wonderful opportunity for me to help set someone up to win!  We met, hit it off, and I had just the best time sharing my journey and answering her questions.  It’s her last day of full-time employment today and I just know that when she spreads her wings to fly, she is going to soar higher than she thought possible!  (You go Angie – I am so proud of you!).


I have a very close friend who has been married for 7 years, have 2 beautiful, busy boys and runs a business with her husband.  She manages all of this with a serenity and peace that I hope to master one day.  Regularly, when we get together for tea, she’ll mention how she struggles to find time to get to the grocery store and buy proper food to cook healthy meals for her family.  Perfect opportunity to set her up to win!  I shared my meal-planning strategy with her and offered to buy her groceries for her when I go shopping for my own.  We are in week one and she is cooking up one delicious healthy meal after the other.


I think we underestimate the things we can do for others to help them win.  Most of the time, it’s not the big things, but the small things, that brings on the biggest wins.  This thing – setting someone up to win – is also about legacy (a previous post – if you haven’t read it yet, click here).  You are taking your gift, your flame, and sharing it with someone who needs it.

What can you start doing today to set someone up to win?


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